I just had an interesting conversation with a dear friend. Her words to me were along the lines of ‘you are so lucky, you don’t know the challenges I have faced and I am facing. You are so positive ‘ Mnnn
I laughed and spent some minutes comparing notes with her which I don’t normally do with a friend going through some issues and needing my support: Her challenges were around her marriage falling apart and some issues with friends and siblings including what her siblings are and have done to her and what is happening to them.
We came to the conclusion that nothing is happening to her that has not happened to me .. in fact I had additional issues. So her final question was how do you do it. I am posting this discussion because my friend insisted I share it. So how do I stay positive and up beat in spite of and not because of?
I choose to be positive, happy and hopeful about life because our time and presence here on earth and alive is a gift. This much I have learnt from my many years on earth: Being miserable is not an action and does not resolve any thing. Walking around moping about some unfortunate hand that life has dealt us does not change or resolve anything. I cannot control many things that will happen to me, to my loved ones and around me.
Some years ago I spent days and weeks and months miserable as a reaction to something unsavory that has happened to me and around me. These reactions did not change anything, today I do my best to find a solution and when I can’t, I work hard to choose gratitude, choose love, choose positive and supportive people, choose people who inspire me. I don’t reject, but just by choosing, the negative problem and people fall away by default.
Have a beautiful weekend